Coming back to my story.. My first night was an interesting experience for me. Don’t you worry.. I’m not gonna go into the details of who did what and stuff like that. It is plainly about certain interesting facts I learnt on my first night. Our first night was arranged in a certain five star hotel.. Ambi had booked up a honey moon suit.Usually orthodox family people are against the idea of organizing the first night anywhere outside. They say it is auspicious to begin the same in the guy's home. But the latest trend is to organize it elsewhere for a better environment and more privacy. Talking about privacy, i recollect a funny incident. As i said our first night was arranged in a hotel by Ambi. My father-in-law who is a strange charactered person insisted Ambi to book for another honey-moon suit in the same hotel for Ambi's sister and her husband. These people were already married for four long years and already had a kid. It seems she (Ambi's sis) could not enjoy her honey moon in any big hotel and so my father-in-law was trying to compensate for the same. Huh! And the funniest part was that my f-in-l also insisted Ambi to bear the bills of the second room as well. That is when i set the ultimate vivid picture of Ambi's family.
Well, coming back to my case.. As usual the scene was well set with a colorful ambiance of flowers and the fragrance of perfumed candles. Well ultimately it was like dressing up in an Oscar night gown for a wild expedition in the forest. Nothing actually happened.. In fact “nothing” actually happens before a month of trial and error unless you happen to be some Greek god incarnated or unless you were actually practicing all these years for this one day.
I don’t know why men actually carry the “fear” for performance before the first night. I don’t think any lady love would be waiting there in the bedroom with a score-sheet in her hands. Marriage is all about a commitment and willingness to share n try out all those ups and downs together. That one night performance is not all that’s gonna set your trend of life. I have heard many couples boast about how eventful and happening their first night was. Bull-Shit! Ask your best friend.. a fairly honest family man n he will tell you the truth.. At least if they don’t belong to the category of so called “Greek Gods”. Many men are all convinced by the trend of sexuality expressed in porn movies. They carry the whole ideology up to their bedrooms and that too on the very first night.. and the net result? You can guess that. So the pleasure solely relies upon the comfort level both of you experience before, during and after the bedroom episode.
Coming to dating.. There is a certain rule what every man is to follow least he wants to be slippered .. that “Thou shall not touch the divine body of a lady without consent”. Well not that her body is divine, but definitely to be on the safe side. When you are permitted to, all those rules of what is right or what is legal is broken. This does not include emotional torture to forcefully push a lady to consent. What I talk about is the approach towards winning her heart. Love making is all about sharing with immense interest on both sides. It has nothing to do with whether you own legal rights over something. But it is better done with personal consent as well. Also remember, just because your girl friend welcomed to to make love whole heartedly one day, doesn’t mean you can take it for granted the next day. Probably she was in a very good mood the other day, or probably she liked the way you danced, or probably she found that accidentally you had a bit more respect or love for her than usual the other day, that she actually let you conquer her. But don’t expect the same always.. unless u make sure you deserve it. Yes guys, you actually need to take a bit more effort for a long lasting benefit.
Myself and Ambi.. Both of us believed that one should get married with somebody who feels great being with you and the one who makes you feel great as well. The other day I had been to a restaurant with my family. There on the very next table I spotted a certain celebrity.. a famous singer of the Tamil film industry. He is truly handsome I must say. Think he is a Tamil Brahmin. Very famous.. Managing to sustain his market in the industry.. truly a real celebrity. But the tragic part was his family. This guy’s better half looked just the opposite.. Short, black, very stout.. Gosh!! While in my college days the news of this guy getting married made me n many of my friends fall sick for days with jealousy. All what we heard was that the lucky girl was from some very rich family. For this handsome guy what we visualized was something different. Well.. what do I say? People do claim that opposites attract.. But I never knew people could settle for extremely opposites. I really feel pity for this guy and his peculiar taste. If you don’t feel great about your better half, how could you manage to carry them along without an awkward feeling wherever you go? No wonder why many men prefer traveling alone or with their personal secretaries. One personally ought to be blamed for same. Either they don’t choose the right one or they are never satisfied. There are guys sheltered under mama’s wings till they get married. They lack so called “exposure” in matters related to “women”. They do not know what they are supposed to expect from a marriage.
Well, there is a famous Indian joke – It seems a certain lady walks into a lingerie shop for a purchase. The salesman gets her a 34 sized Bra. She thinks for a while and says “Can you get me a smaller one?”. The salesman smiles and gets her a 32. She again thinks for a while and says “Something a bit more smaller??” .. the salesman gets her a 30 this time but she still asks for a smaller one. This goes on until there is no smaller size left. Finally the salesman thinks for a while and gets her a “ No Marks” cream and says “Probably a cure for two little pimples is what you were looking for.. I think this should work!”. Well, there are guys who tend to settle down for women using “No Marks” and days after marriage once the ray of knowledge enlightens them, they start staring at his neighbor’s “assets”. There is no point paying the cook and eating out all the time cz the food is no good.. Hhmmm.. Whatever..
-Priya.
[ Note :- Dear readers, I would suggest you to read my previous blogs in sequence for Continuity]
