Monday, June 30, 2008

Choosing Between Harry and Harry

Its indeed a tough journey between a free mind and one that is committed in bondage forever..I was hardly 20 when my destiny tied knots with Ambi (Anantha Pathmanabha iyer). As they say a person is what his mind is.My mindset was entirely different from what it is today.My good old childhood days were churned in a big mansion that roofed an age old orthodox Brahmin family in south India.I grew up believing in things like this is good and that was bad..cz the religious books say so..n all that.I was raised as a race horse with very little options in life..Basically in India every single person is just another victim of circumstances.Definitely none of us on earth have a choice regarding who our parents are gonna be.But in a country like our's,we have no choice to anything.The kind of schooling we get depends on the financial situation of the family and at times also on your sex.i.e if you happen to be a male specie,you have full rights to go anywhere to learn anything to any extend.But for females,its like you get to invest just a quarter of the funds laid aside for you on education.Rest is kind of reserved for "Wedding".Most Indian parents follow the motto "Profession for guys and marriage for girls".We are also restricted when it comes to a job level.You have passion for one but if you are gonna be the only supporter of the entire family you are forced to choose the profession that fills your pockets the most.O.K,i agree this happens in every other country..But just imagine such a case when it comes to marriage??? Your options get restricted initially with the factor "Caste".Even if you are in love with a "Hindu" you still cant marry another Hindu..You go for "Brahmins" n that too the one who speaks the same regional language..(This in my case).So your options are lowered again.Then again you go for factors like "Family background", "Horoscopes", "Job of the guy".....Blah n Blah n Blah..Finally there is very little or rather no scope for "Love".Leave alone love,for those horoscopes n well paid pockets good looking Indian barbies often tend to settle down for "Barbarians".So,i basically had no expectations that my parents would find me a guy whose horoscope,looks,pocket-size and character-all of them happen to be compatible with me..Its really tough..i swear..

3 comments:

Unknown said...

Is it just a write-up or u been a victim of such compulsion??
Truly a fact not only in south india but even in our bengalis, but still I see a silver lining; parents r getting more open n their mindsets r changing...atleast in cities!!

Kris Sab said...
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Kris Sab said...

When it comes to marriage, the condition of "IYER" boys is also the same.....